Do you need some things to read on the internet so you don’t have to go address your to-do list? Great — here are some things for you to read!
Firstly, I wrote up a list of seven strategies to keep online bullying out of your life for the website SheKnows. These are all techniques that I worked out while I was writing If You Don’t Have Anything Nice to Say, and they are valuable for all of us (even if you don’t think of yourself as ever participating in social media tear-downs).
Also, if you want to read any interviews with me about If You Don’t Have Anything Nice to Say, you can do that! I had really in-depth conversations with the Mary Sue and North of the Internet about public shaming, social justice, and saying the wrong things online. If you read these interviews and have your own responses, let me know — I’d love to discuss these issues with you, too.
If You Don’t Have Anything Nice to Say comes out on May 1, and I am so incredibly excited to share it with you all. Here’s the description:
Before we go any further, I want you to understand this: I am not a good person.
We all want to be seen. We all want to be heard. But what happens when we’re seen and heard saying or doing the wrong things? What then?
When Winter Halperin–former spelling bee champion, aspiring writer, and daughter of a parenting expert–gets caught saying the wrong thing online, her life explodes. All across the world, people knows what she’s done, and none of them will forgive her.
With her friends gone, her future plans cut short, and her identity in shambles, Winter is just trying to pick up the pieces without hurting anyone else. She knows she messed up, but does that mean it’s okay for people to send her hate mail and death threats? Does she deserve to lose all that she’s lost? And is “I’m sorry” ever good enough?
First and foremost a novel about public shaming in the internet age, If You Don’t Have Anything Nice to Say is also an exploration of the power of words, the cumulative destructiveness of microaggressions, and the pressing need for empathy.
I’ll be doing launch events in the spring, so keep an eye on my Events page for my details about those. I hope you love this book!
If you’ve ever talked to me for longer than ten minutes, you’ve probably discovered that I’ve spent years involved in the University of Chicago’s Scav Hunt, that it is one of my favorite things in the world, and that I can talk about it endlessly. So, after nearly 15 years of being involved in Scav, it brings me so much joy to announce that I am going to be editing a collection of Scav Hunt stories, to be published by the University of Chicago Press in the spring of 2019. And we are now open for submissions! So if you’re a U of C alum with a Scav story to tell, read on…
You are invited to send in your 500 – 2,500-word personal essay on the topic of “My Craziest and Most Memorable Scav Hunt Experience.” All stories must be true. Each essay should be focused on one particular item or event, and should include the year and item number. So we’re not looking for general philosophical musings on Scav, or the history of Scav, but rather concrete stories about cool things you’ve done–the sorts of stories you would tell friends to try to explain to them how amazing Scav is.
I will be selecting about 25 essays for the book, and I’ll be looking for a wide range of experiences (road trips, showcase items, small personal labors of love, etc.) and a wide range of years.
Please submit all essays to firstname.lastname@example.org no later than July 15, 2017. If your essay is selected for the book, I will send you editorial feedback and request some revisions in the fall. No Scav points, but if your essay gets included in the book, you’ll get paid $175 capitalism points for your contribution. Plus you’ll have your name in a book about Scav, which is priceless.
Let me know if you have any questions, and please share this call for submissions with all your Scav friends!
I’m trying to put together a list of my Desert Island Discs (i.e. the albums I’d want to have with me if I were stranded on a desert island indefinitely). I have never come up with a final and complete list, and I’m certainly not going to do so tonight, but here’s what I’ve got at present:
Graceland, by Paul Simon Tapestry, by Carole King Yourself or Someone Like You, by matchbox twenty The Stone Roses, by the Stone Roses If You’re Feeling Sinister, by Belle & Sebastian The “Chirping” Crickets, by Buddy Holly and the Crickets
Okay I’m going to stop there because I don’t want to lock myself into any choices I might regret later. TO BE CONTINUED, MAYBE.
I am a big believer in New Years resolutions. I am also into birthday resolutions, Rosh Hashana resolutions, and summer resolutions: basically I will take any opportunity to try to be a better person.
For 2008 I resolved to get more sleep. For 2009 I resolved to make my writing more of a priority. For 2011 I resolved to get in shape. For 2012 I resolved to be more charitable. For 2013 I resolved to cook for myself. For 2014 I resolved to do something about my anxiety. Not only did I take steps toward all these goals in the years that I resolved them, but I have continued to work on all of them ever since then.
A successful self-improvement regimen takes discipline and willpower, but it also requires a smart approach. Here’s what I think about when crafting resolutions:
1) Operationalize it. This is my best piece of advice and I am very serious about it. Always ask yourself HOW? HOW am I going to achieve this goal? What is my PLAN for putting it into action? It’s all well and good to say “I’m going to be more productive at work” or “I’m going to be more respectful to my parents.” But those are not good plans, they are merely good intentions. And the minute your focus wavers, your intentions get away from you. You need to create measurable, achievable steps. I didn’t say, “I’m going to get more sleep”: I said, “I’m setting an alarm for 11:30pm every night and when it goes off, I will drop whatever I am doing and go to bed.” I didn’t say, “I’m going to prioritize my writing”: I said, “I’m going to set aside one night every week to come straight home from work and write.” Every day, or every week, I could look back over it and see whether I had done my plan or not.
2) Be realistic. If every meal you currently eat is takeout, or crackers and peanut butter, or Annie’s mac and cheese, you are not overnight going to turn into a person who cooks for yourself seven nights a week. And if you resolve to turn into that person, you will find it impossible, and you will feel overwhelmed and give up. Set a goal you are capable of achieving so that you don’t set yourself up for failure and quitting. For my “cooking for myself” resolution, I created a google doc listing meals I’d cooked, and my goal was to add to the list at least twice a month, so by the end of the year I’d have 25 meals I had made. Maybe I ate cereal for the other 340 days that year, but it was a start–and it gave me the foundation to do even better the next year.
3) There’s no time limit on becoming the person you want to be. If you don’t actually join that gym in January, do it in February. If February gets away from you, do it in March. I didn’t get around to my 2014 resolution until October, because at that point I was like, “Shit, this year is almost over, and I haven’t yet fulfilled the promise I made to myself.” So I did it then, still got it in before 2015: it still counts.
4) Prioritize yourself. A commitment that you make to yourself is every bit as meaningful and binding as a commitment you make to someone else. You wouldn’t cancel dinner plans with a friend because at the last minute you were kind of tired and didn’t really feel like going out in the rain, so you sure as hell can’t cancel on your own plans to go to the gym or write 500 words. To make it easier to hold yourself to your promises, make a list of every time you do the thing you’re supposed to do, or a calendar where you give yourself a star sticker for every day you do it. In 2012 I made a list of every month of the year and then wrote in which charity I donated to each time. I put an appointment in my calendar for each month: “Give to April charity.” An appointment is a real thing, and you can’t ignore it–even if the appointment is with no one but yourself.
5) Doing something is better than doing nothing. Every soda you don’t drink, every cigarette you don’t smoke, every day you do go for a run, every email you do respond to quickly–give yourself credit for every one of those. Yes, there will still be the soda you DID drink, the day you DIDN’T go for a run, the email that’s been languishing in your inbox for four months, but so what? It’s fine if you don’t get all the way to the person you want to be. All that matters is that you’re taking steps in that direction.
That’s basically it. At the end of the day: have a plan. Put it in your calendar. Do what your calendar tells you to do. Trust the strategies you laid out for yourself more than you listen to whatever it is you “feel like” doing when the actual moment comes. 2016, let’s do this.
Because my new novel is about a blogger, I’m doing something a little different for this tour. Not only are the bloggers asking me questions about my life and writing, but I am asking them questions right back. So this is a great opportunity for you not just to get excited about Tonight the Streets Are Ours, but also to learn more about some of the Internet’s best and sharpest YA tastemakers.
I’ll be tweeting each day’s guest blog post from @LeilaSalesBooks, and I’ll post some of them here, too. Enjoy!
This Song Will Save Your Life comes out in paperback on April 14. That is really soon!
Here are some things that paperback edition includes that the original hardcover does not:
1) An awesome new cover!
2) A revealing interview between me and my editor!
3) Brand-new Elise-curated playlists for everything from “Best songs for doing homework” to “Best songs to get over a breakup”!
I already have a number of book events lined up for this year. I’ll announce even more events down the line, but for now I wanted to tell you everything I know. I would love to see you at any of these bookstores, libraries, and festivals!
Friday, March 20, 3:55pm
The New York Public Library in New York, New York
Part of the New York City Teen Author Festival, I will be moderating a panel called “The Fame Game,” featuring the delightful YA authors Alison Cherry, Sarah Darer Littman, Maya Rock, Rebecca Serle, and Alecia Whitaker.
Saturday or Sunday April 18-19, time and day TBA
Los Angeles, California
I will appear on a panel at the Los Angeles Times Festival of Books. Exact date, time, and topic of my panel to be announced in the next couple of weeks, so keep an eye out.
Monday, April 20, 7pm – a.k.a. my BIRTHDAY!
Palo Alto, California
Paperback launch event for This Song Will Save Your Life at Not Your Mother’s Book Club at Books, Inc.
Tuesday, September 15, 7pm
Boston-area launch party for my forthcoming YA novel, Tonight the Streets Are Ours, at Brookline Booksmith. September 15 is the very day the book comes out, so we will be celebrating intensely.
Thursday, September 17, 7pm
New York, New York
NYC-area launch party for Tonight the Streets Are Ours at McNally Jackson.
Whew. That is a lot. And watch this space, because there’s even more to come!